Ladies, have you ever composed different scenes in your head.  You know, ones of rescue and romance.    Hmmmm…it is okay to fantasize…in fact it is quite healthy for a marriage.  If I didn’t dream up crazy scenarios, my husband and I would be a sexless married couple!!  There is nothing wrong in re-enacting the scene in your mind of Richard Gere (from the movie An Officer and a Gentleman) busting down the front door and rescues you from the piles of laundry you have been doing for 15 straight years!  Ooooh, how about when Kevin Costner from Robin Hood is determined to get his Maid Marion….Oh and for you Sex and the City fans…what about when Big went to Paris to profess his love to Carrie during the last season?   I have to say that my husband is not a very romantic person.  He just isn’t built that way.  To no fault of his own, he just wasn’t exposed to that as a young boy growing up.  His father was a watered down version of Archie Bunker with an english accent.  Anyways, fantasies and such are harmless ways of staying in touch with that side of you.  It gives you a boost of friskiness.  I can’t speak for you out there, but I need all the help I can get!  As a matter of fact, I am about to watch a movie right now!

Ciao!

That’s how it was when I met and decided I was going to marry my now husband.   I just knew I was going to marry him.  There was an instant jolt that went through me.  I was reeled in by his boyish smirk and of course the take charge way he handled me.  Now mind you it wasn’t just me….I  came with a ready made family.  That would be the true test of grit!  He passed with flying colors.  I dated a variety of characters before I found him.   I dated a stripper, (unbeknown to me) a racist, (he wanted to make sure my children were of a certain race) a don juan who felt me up under the table during our first and only date at dinner and a man, who come to find out, still lived with his mother.  Oh and the one who took me to Denny’s on our first and last date.  My husband and I have endured many ups and downs throughout the years but we love and respect one another.  We are best friends in every sense of the word and we fight like ones too!  There is a security knowing that someone is there for you no matter what occurs.  I don’t know what I would do without him.  We have a great family and a fantastic life.  If it weren’t for those dating mishaps I wouldn’t have seen what fate put in front of me.  There are times I could throw in the towel or better yet a frying pan at his head but I won’t.  We have a beautiful thing going on here and I can only hope others can see that in there own marriage as well.

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That is what I wonder aloud quite often to my husband.  Harsh you say…no, just honest.  After years of togetherness and marriage you would think that your significant other would know you by now.  How could he not know when I am PMSing to make life a little easier for me.  I am drained sometimes emotionally with the kids, the dogs and the wacky dysfuntional clan I am related to.  Wouldn’t you love for your man to take charge of those things that sometimes sap your emotional energy.  The fun suckers, the blood suckers, the energy suckers, etc…  I just would like to be heard without having to say anything.  Maybe we hold back and expect our minds read.  That works for me!!  Here is my take on it…after all this time, your loved one should know the clues to a potential breakdown.  They should know when to step it up a notch and be the hero.     Even though I can hold my own with the boys, I am still a girlie girl.  I want to be pampered, doors opened for me, walk beside me and not ahead of me and a warm (not hot) bubble bath for two would be nice.

I have to believe he knows… or a truck really did back up over his head!