Someone asked me recently how often my husband and I are intimate.  I had to think about that for a moment.  Did she mean actual sex…do hand shakes count?  Kiss on the cheek?  Pat on the behind?  Of course I knew what she was asking but it is pretty sad that we get so caught up in the day to day that you might have to actually schedule a time for love-making.  Between work, school, kids and their social life, your passion gets put on the back burner waiting to be ignited.  It is so easy to put your needs last while you tend to everything else.  I am sure by the end of the day/week you are so drained emotionally that the thought of even shaving your legs for the ‘event’ is exhausting.  Some of you may be a morning person whiles others would enjoy a middle of night romp.  I like the early evening or middle of the night roll over myself.  I have had time to sleep some of my day away, I am half asleep and I am not expected to do much.  Pretty pathetic, huh?  My husband is gung ho in the morning, (which by the way is natural seeing that their testosterone levels are built up from the night and frankly why would that turn me on) I feel that he will figure it out with or without my assistance.  You see where I am going with this.  We take for granted that our other half is content with the way things have become.  Maybe it is an unwritten rule of long time unions.  I don’t know.  I do know that we all have passion within us just waiting to be unleashed.  We need some incentive, some sort of motivation, some intimacy to get the juices flowing.  I always tell my husband that I get turned on when he doesn’t speak!  I know, pretty harsh.  But sometimes he just puts his size tens in his mouth!  Or he is there physically but you know by the body language he would rather be watching sports and making unnecessary noises in his ‘man’ room.  I am just as guilty as he.  I much prefer to watch a rerun of one my favorite shows then take the time and energy to perform.  I always plan on turning over a new leaf etc. but then something happens.  Life gets in the way.

Ciao!